Flower Boi Spa Day

Creator(s): Charles Buchanan & Jae Shepherd

Idea: Masculine spa day to explore the true foundation of a healthy uncolonized masculinity through the embracing of femininity for queer and trans masculine-of-center people of color.

In the poem “Masculine” by  Nayyirah Waheed she explores the toxicity of masculinity by stating that  “ there have been so many times i have seen a men wanting to weep but instead beat his heart until it was unconscious.” Masculinity does not have to be toxic and is not toxic when connected to its foundation. The foundation of femininity. Crying, tenderness and affection is not reserved only for femmes, women, and girls.

Flower Boi Support Group is seeking 500 dollars to host a spa day for masculine of center (including but not limited to masculine of center womyn, cisgender men, gender-non-conforming, boi, trans masculine, androgynous) people of color in order to explore the true foundation of a healthy uncolonized masculinity through the embracing of femininity. The layout of the day consist of a deep intentional conversation about healthy masculinity, small breakout groups, spa activities (face mask, massage, reiki, etc), lunch, and a final check in. This spa day will focus on reconnecting masculine people across different genders, sexualities, and borders who exist in the constant state of building walls around their hearts and placing armor on their bodies to not just protect themselves but to fight alongside and at the head of a patriarchal society that damns all femmes & femininity. We seek to provide an environment to unpack the relationship between masculinity & femininity, unpack one's own toxicity through embracing the wholeness of femininity, and learn more about yourself in a brave space that allows you grace and understanding as you detangle the hardness of toxic masculinity and find freedom to blossom into a soft flower boi.